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We are so excited to come together as a community to help empower girls as to how to be beautiful from the inside out through discovery of social, mental, and physical components!

 

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We were thrilled to launch our blog titled, The Life of an Empowered & Poised Female this month!

Thank you to all of the courageous females who have volunteered to share their stories in hopes of helping others to feel loved, accepted, empowered, and poised.

If you are interested in sharing your story please do not hesitate to reach out on our contact page. 

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Upcoming Programs

We look forward to enriching the lives of as many girls as possible. Please help us spread the word to your friends and family!

Upcoming extended (after school) programs: 

(Meet 1 hour a week over the course of 6 weeks)-programs are tailored to be developmentally and culturally appropriate for girls to engage in activities and discussion affecting them and their peers. 

  • Beachwood Community Center
    • Day, Dates, Time: 
      • Session 1: Mondays, Sept.11- Oct.16, 4:30-5:30 PM
      • Session 2: Mondays, Sept. 23- Nov. 27, 4:30-5:30 PM
    • Grades:
      • Session 1: 1-4
      • Session 2: 5-6
  • Pepper Pike Learning Center/ Orange Community Center
    • Day, Dates, Time: Wednesdays, Sept.13- Oct.18 3:45-4:45 PM
    • Grades: 1-4
  • Warrensville Heights YMCA
    • Day, Dates, Time: Thursdays, Sept.28- Nov. 2, 4-5 PM
    • Grades: 7-8
  • Chagrin Community Ed
    • Day, Dates, Time: Thursdays, Nov.9- Dec.14, 3:30-4:30 PM
    • Grades: 4-6
  • Reminderville RAC
    • Day, Dates, Time:
      • Session 1: Wednesdays, Nov.8- Dec.13, 4:30-5:30 PM
      • Session 2: Wednesdays, Nov.8- Dec.13, 6:00- 7:00 PM
    • Grades:
      • Session 1: 1-4
      • Session 2: 5-6

**All sign-ups are done through the locations listed. Prices may also vary per location. 

If you have any additional questions we would be happy to answer at hello@empoweredandpoised.com or (330) 348-4119. 

 

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Thank you to Twinsburg Bulletin for recognizing our awesome founder,

Leah Berdysz!

Be You. Be Strong. be empowered & poised.

How to Overcome Your Struggles by Christie

** as you read this blog, think about where you are in life.  This isn't just about my story, but each of ours!  So fill in the the blanks you see with something YOU can relate!

I hated myself for almost a third of my years on earth. I had been telling myself horrible things about how I wasn’t good enough, thin enough or **_____ enough and still, sometimes struggle to keep those thoughts away!  I had allowed these thoughts to dictate life in ways that were unhealthy to both body and mind. For me, it turned into an eating disorder.  

How it all came to pass or my story, doesn’t matter for this blog.  This isn’t about eating disorders.  It is about the LIES we tell ourselves!

Lie 1:  I don’t have a problem.

That was the hardest part.  I didn’t want to admit that daily, I was consumed with thoughts and pressures.  

All I could think of was how I looked, what I ate, what people thought and how I could be PERFECT.  

When I got up in the morning it had already started.  

This overwhelming pressure:

What I was going to wear?  What were my friends going to wear?  What should the popular girls wear?

What I was going to eat?  Would my crush be there at lunch and see me eating?  Of course my skinny friend was going to eat whatever she wants and I would have to watch her…and on and on and on…. It was EXHAUSTING.  I believed that I was imperfect for so long that everything I was feeling about how to become “perfect” was NORMAL and healthy.

Here is an example.  Look at Instagram.  We are shown pictures of models, fashion, fitness, food, extreme wealth, our friends having the time of their life, happy couples, and so much more.  Constant reminders of what it is we need to be, look at, have and eat without gaining a pound...more or less, what it takes to be happy and have a picturesque life. (Did I mention how exhausting it was to put this constant pressure on myself, to have these thoughts and become so consumed with looking at other people’s lives?)

Guess what guys; it is not healthy to think like this!

Truth:  I have a problem and it is OK to admit that!

So now what?

Lie 2:  I can fix this problem and do it alone!

I am not even going into the day in and day out plan to “get better” alone as it didn’t work and DOESN’T!

Truth:  GET HELP.  Recently in business, someone told me "no one who ever did any great, did it alone.”  AND WOW is that the truth! 

The first thing I suggest (And I did) is to tell someone close in confidence.  Not a girlfriend, but someone in a leadership position that can make suggestions with your best interest in mind.  

This reach out ended me in an eating disorder program. 

With time, work and a year of struggle, I became to get better!  I no longer viewed food the same way and made some huge strides in understanding how and why I let myself get to this point. 

My mind shifted and it gave me power BUT…

Lie 3:  I am broken.

It was my family who reminded me of this pretty consistently.  They were worried so they always said things that in their mind, helped.  It didn’t.  I felt that since I admitted to the problem and was in therapy, everyone felt this way anyways and I was humiliated.  So from here on out, obviously I am the broken messed up one in the family.  (Maybe for you insert Family with **______)  

Truth:  NOPE!! I am not broken.  I am **______.  There are thoughts that are broken.

I had to choose and decide I was not broken.  Instead, I realized there was an area of my mind that had been filled with lies I had begun to believe.  I was no longer fighting myself, but fighting the LIES instead!  

Lie 4:  I am FIXED!  Now, ONCE XXX HAPPENS THEN LIFE WILL BE PERFECT!

*This lie ended with a truth that was humbling.  I realized I was still sick and hadn’t given up all the crap I had put on myself*

Now that I was feeling more strong and empowered, I came to the conclusion that my life would begin after I “finished” this battle and lost the weight the program had pushed me to gain.  I thought if I could just do it in a healthier way every one would see me in the way I wanted.  I would finally be healed and happy.  

These thoughts became my new obsession.  They kept me in from events, friends, alone on holidays and on and on.  Truly, they kept me from enjoying life.  (AGAIN)

I was living with the same pressure as I had with my eating disorder.  

Truth:  Life begins this second!

One day, as I considered many things and how sad I was, I thought…What if I didn’t ever have a body that my mind felt was PERFECT?  What if every day, no matter what I did, I stayed the same?  Would I want to feel this way for the REST OF MY LIFE?   HELL NO!  That day forth, I decided I was worth fighting these thoughts.  

I wish I could say that since then I have woken up with a smile and a pure self awareness.  SO not true.  Since that moment I have had periods of time as long as months, and relationships I have allowed that were negative. Times and interactions that caused me to question my abilities and worth.  It starts a daily struggle.  Then it turns into a weekly…and with time less and less.  But it is still a struggle!

What I did and do different?

1-I created wonder.  I look up at the moon; laugh when I trip over my own two feet or do something silly.  I always wear my favorite clothes that make me feel special.  I make an effort to get to know others and work to make others smile.

2-I have a list of positive thoughts I push into my mind when negativity pops up its ugly head.  My own positive thoughts or things I have heard from others that I love. 

3-I have a support group to keep me in check.  When I have a day of questioning I TELL THEM!

4-I know when to say when.  (And I do not do so great at this one) I work to know when to end a friendship or relationship.  I know when I am feeling down to stay away from my destructive behaviors like shopping or over eating or spending too much time alone.  Some days it is as easy as knowing when to get off Instagram!

The results:

I started to treat myself differently.  I started not hiding my body or my mind.  I wore clothes that I liked that fit my body (even if it wasn’t my favorite outfit ever-it fit and made me look good!). I started to try new things and create adventures.  Negative behaviors were not in the forefront of my mind as I was too happy and busy enjoying my life!  Time passed and my body figured itself out.  I had hurt it and it needed to heal.  Just as I did.

MY ASK:

So I am asking for you to think about where you are. Are you listening to the lies?  Are you waiting for something to happen?  

Please hear me.  Loving yourself is what matters. Accept how you are today.  Accept yourself exactly in the form, feeling and state you are in.  Keep that feeling through practice of self-love. Surround yourself with people who empower you.  Work daily on those reminders and keep that same feeling.

Once you accept yourself, truly love yourself - you can only find happiness in happiness. 

Progress Over Perfection by Leah

I am an Empowered & Poised Female because I am brave enough to follow my dreams. The life of an entrepreneur is never easy, especially being a twenty-two year old recent college graduate. I have never been great at letting go as I am a perfectionist, and need to manage my anxiety, almost on a daily basis. I have constantly struggled with forgiving myself for getting a bad grade, which to most people would not even be considered unacceptable. This type of thinking has also trickled down into other areas of my life. Eating too many treats, which at times means more than none, and obsessing over things that do not truly matter like how flat my stomach is at any given point in a day have been struggles in life. So, it is safe to say that starting a business has presented quite a few challenges for me. I am learning it is okay to let go of the need to be perfect all the time. There are still days I get nervous about looking “dumb” and have my amazing boyfriend edit a two sentence email to settle my fears, but I am slowly beginning to trust myself and my abilities. I am starting to realize that if I make a mistake it is okay because I am human and I am imperfect, just like everyone else. I now understand that it is better to DO SOMETHING and learn than be afraid of failure and do nothing at all.

My passion for working with young girls and supporting women is what will make this tough journey as a young female business owner worthwhile. On the days that I struggle, I remember that I too am empowered & poised. I am courageous, strong, and driven because there is a world that is much bigger than me in need of positivity and acceptance. I am living in a world where I know I am not the only woman that seems confident, but breaks down crying some nights trying to love herself. I am empowered & poised and will no longer allow my fears to tell me I am incapable of becoming a success. For so long I was scared to begin this journey, not having the ability to plan every little detail. Today I stand boldly and beautifully knowing that I will be a success if I can touch the heart of just one female. Because ultimately, making the difference in even one girl’s life is enough for me to know I am living out my greater purpose. It will allow me to sleep at night knowing one less girl will have to deal with feeling that she constantly has to measure up to society’s standards of “perfection”.

I am an empowered & poised female because I am learning to set aside my fears and trust the process. I am an empowered & poised female because I am brave enough to follow my dreams. I am an empowered & poised female because I am brave enough to become naked to the world and share my raw stories and struggles so that other females can begin to heal and know that they are not alone.

You are not alone.

Because I am an empowered & poised female I am confident that “I am not perfect like you, I am perfect like me.”