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Mental Health Awareness by Maddie
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Marilyn Monroe once said, “She was a girl who knew to be happy even when she was sad. And that’s important.”

I combat certain mental illnesses that affect my mental health and my ability to live a stable and kind life.  One of my biggest obstacles during these times is the ability to find positivity during my darkest days.

I believe that to be stable and healthy entails being able to be your best self, even when it seems like life is throwing the world at you. To shine through strength, kindness, and love even though you might just want to curl into a ball. Or, the need to tear down that person that might be making you feel powerless and hopeless.

“She builds others up because she knows what it’s like to be torn down.” -unknown

As I struggle to find the strength to radiate positivity during the hardships of my life, I, through the power of mindfulness and extensive therapy, which is vital to overcoming my illness, have learned how to strife the darkness. I am learning how to exude affection, happiness, and thoughtfulness even when I can barely get out of bed in the morning.

The ability to do this shows a certain kind of gift that many of us either wish to have or battle with.  Through my therapy, I am learning how to take on the darkness by taking the day one breath at a time.  

The Healthy Place quoted, “Note to self: I don’t have to take this day all at once, but rather, one step, one breath, one moment at a time. I am only one person. Things will get done when they get done.”

I have had to remind myself that I am only human and I have to be mindful in order to become a successful, stable and healthy woman.  

Another helpful skill is learning how to communicate when you are at your darkest.

The Good Quote stated, “Loneliness does not come from being alone, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to you.”

I have noticed that when I have my hardest days, it is because I am not communicating to my loved ones. The days when I consciously or unconsciously isolate myself are my most despairing days. I might be a warrior but I am nothing without my tribe, my family and my health community.

Lastly, the aspect that helps me project positivity is renewed confidence.

“You can break down a woman temporarily, but a real woman will always pick up the pieces, rebuild herself, and come back stronger than ever.”-unknown

I continue to build and display confidence to the world.  In doing this I validate myself. If I exhibit confidence than I can concur almost anything.

I am a person with mental illness.  I do not let my diagnosis define who I am and how I live each day. My diagnosis will always be a part of me but I refuse to let it dictate any aspect of my life, especially when it inflicts hopelessness, darkness, and pain. I am not perfect nor do I pretend to be. Some days, the darkness wins but those days are far and few between.

I encourage all women and girls out there to fight the darkness. I believe that I am an empowered and poised woman who wants to learn how to fail and get back up again.  As I joust the darkness, I believe that I will come back stronger than ever before. My definition of empowered and poised is being able to treat others with love and kindness even when you may be breaking. We must be able to look darkness in the eye, smile and give it a wink.  

“What made her strong was despite the million things that hurt her she spoke of nothing but happiness.” -j.a.

Are You Willing to Lose to Win? by Summer

Are you willing to lose to win?

I know what you are thinking? Why on earth would I want to read anything about losing? Especially if you are in a place in your life where you feel as if you have already “lost “a lot. However, I promise you that this blog is not about the type of losing you are thinking about.  Allow me to share an excerpt from my book I wrote last year….

“I won because I pushed myself when I felt like quitting.   I won because I kept going despite the odds against me. I won because I got back up after getting knocked down. I won because I found the inner strength to pursue the greatness within me.  I won because I dared to believe in myself and my dreams when others didn’t. To win, I had to lose first. I had to lose my excuses. I had to lose my comfort zone. I had to lose the old me. The me who said I was incapable, weak, and inadequate.  The me who became discouraged by difficulties and overwhelmed by opposition.  The me who allowed other people’s opinions to define my destiny.  When I dared to lose the old me, it was then and only then….that I won.”

My question to you today is this, “Are you willing to lose?” It took me a long time to be willing to do just that.  As a young adult I struggled with low self-esteem because in my eyes I didn’t look like the cover girl on the magazines. Then in my early 20’s my 6 year marriage ended in divorce. At 29, I realized that my life was definitely not the “fairy-tale” I planned and felt my life going in a downward spiral. I continued to look to others for assurance that I was not a failure because I was not married with 2 kids and white picket fence. I was at a job I hated and quite frankly I felt confused about who I was or where I was even going.  I remember crying out to God to help me. I was tired of trying to do things on my own. I was tired of trying to live up to society’s expectations and other people’s approval.  During this time of prayer and meditation, I realized I had to let go and lose my idea of being perfect and learn to love and celebrate myself for where I was. I realized that in order for me to grow, it was ok for me to be uncomfortable. I realized that this thing called “life” does not exactly come with an instruction manual and if I was going to reach my fullest potential, I was going to need God to guide me.  So what did I do? I let go of toxic relationships. I stopped feeding myself negativity through conversations, television, or social media. I stopped entertaining negative thoughts in my head. I pretty much let go of everything that I knew was prohibiting me from being the best woman I was purposed to be.  As a result, I latched on to everything positive I could get my hands on. From prayer, self-help books, inspirational books, fulfilling relationships. mentors, etc.  God and the factors I just mentioned helped me get to where I am today. Who am I?  An empowered and poised Christian woman who now loves myself unconditionally and has finally tapped into my God-given purpose. I am bold, strong and unstoppable.  I am a registered nurse, entrepreneur, certified personal trainer and life coach. I have published one book and currently working on my second. I ran a full marathon and competed in 2 bodybuilding competitions. I did all of this after losing everything that was preventing me from achieving my fullest potential. My hope and prayer for you as an empowered and poised woman is that you realize how amazing you are and don’t ever be afraid to lose…. in order to win.

 

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Check out Summer's website & book at: 

http://iamwarriorprincess.com/product/book/

How To Live More Confidently by Leah

Confidence. This one thing will lead you to be an empowered person and can be hard for just about anyone, especially a teenage girl. I believe that it doesn’t take other people to make you confident, only yourself.

The first step to becoming more confident is killing all the negative thoughts from not only other people but yourself. This may seem hard but it’s really not. First of all you are amazing and beautiful, don’t let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Don’t get down on yourself because this makes you more vulnerable. You might not think that these words hurt you in any way but they can. They can stick with you in the back of your brain just eating away at it until you finally believe them.

The second part of becoming more confident is surrounding yourself with people who won’t bring you down or hurt your feelings in any way. Become friends with people who will pick you up and make you feel better. Becoming part of a good group of friends is always the key. These friends are the ones that will help you think highly  of yourself. Stay close to the people to the who build you up! You don’t need to worry about negative people trying to bring you down.

Step three of learning to be more confident in yourself is finding something to do that makes you happy. Typically if you're sad you're not going to be a very confident person. Doing something that you enjoy like art or soccer will make you more confident. This is because it will make you happy and you’ll learn to love yourself a little more which is also a big key to being confident.

Lastly, act the part! You can forget the negative comments, have nice friends and even do something that makes you happy but still not have self confidence. This sounds almost crazy but it’s true. If you don’t follow through with these and you just kinda ‘go with it’ and not care then you're just going to resort back to having little confidence. But if you really go by these steps everyday and take part in it then you’re going to become a super self confident person! This might mean making some changes in your life but I promise it’s worth it.

My name is Leah and I’m a super confident person. I live by these steps each day. I don’t let people's negativity or mean words words bring me down. I have an amazing group of friends that boost my confidence and bring out the best in me and I do the same for them! I play soccer and softball which makes me confident because it makes me stronger mentally and physically, and I act confident! I hope you learn to be the super confident person you were meant to be and always show it!

How To Overcome Failure by Abigail

Failure can seem like a roadblock. Being an empowered and poised, hard-working woman, I pour my soul into absolutely everything that I do, and it is a crushing realization when you are smacked in the face with what feels like inadequacy. To fail can unfortunately foster a false self-image of low worth, despite having worked so hard for the dreams you chase.

I am a medical student currently and recently took a standardized exam that partially determines where I will do my professional training in the hospital after graduation. For six grueling weeks, I followed a strict study schedule jam-packed with various tasks such as practice questions, organ system-based review, and countless summary videos. It seemed to be an insurmountable task to learn all of the information I needed to know, but I thought if I told myself I could do it that I would be fine. However, I failed the exam by a mere one point and I was absolutely devastated. Due to failure to pass the exam, I am mandated to take a year off of school to retake the exam, which was never a part of my “plan”. I also had some personal and emotional complications occurring at the time of this dedicated study period, in which I ended a 7-year long relationship with my then-fiancé. In addition to the disappointment I felt in myself, I felt as if the control I once thought I had over my life was slipping through my fingers.

However, over the past couple weeks I have had a revelation: the adversities I face at this point in my life are only shaping me into a more empowered and poised woman for the future. No matter how unsure I may be about what tomorrow will bring, I have learned that I can depend on myself and my commitment to happiness and success. Love for yourself and love for the life you are living are immeasurably important. Once I came to terms with my situation and started to string together a game-plan, I realized the opportunities that this seemingly-terrible situation had created for me. I now have the chance to re-approach the exam in a better state of mind and prove how capable I am. I have to time to myself to decompress and further myself professionally and personally in my time off.

Today I am studying and re-evaluating my methods in preparation for re-taking the exam this fall. I have learned so much about myself, what I want in my life and what ways I can best succeed: things that I would have never had insight into without this unexpected turbulence. As much as many of us wish that we had full control over our timeline, it is not the way of the world. However, personal growth is dependent on the challenges that we face. No matter how tough things may appear, there is always a way to use adversity to improve yourself and learn. Becoming empowered and poised is a lifelong journey! It is something that everyone is learning each and every day, through the good and the bad. I encourage everyone to be grateful for the blessings in your life, no matter how simple they may seem compared to your hardships. Always seek opportunities to grow and never, ever stop believing in yourself and what you are capable of. Failure may be a roadblock, but construction is temporary; afterwards, you will be even stronger for it.

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We were thrilled to launch our blog titled, The Life of an Empowered & Poised Female this month!

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Upcoming Programs

We look forward to enriching the lives of as many girls as possible. Please help us spread the word to your friends and family!

Upcoming extended (after school) programs: 

(Meet 1 hour a week over the course of 6 weeks)-programs are tailored to be developmentally and culturally appropriate for girls to engage in activities and discussion affecting them and their peers. 

  • Beachwood Community Center
    • Day, Dates, Time: 
      • Session 1: Mondays, Sept.11- Oct.16, 4:30-5:30 PM
      • Session 2: Mondays, Sept. 23- Nov. 27, 4:30-5:30 PM
    • Grades:
      • Session 1: 1-4
      • Session 2: 5-6
  • Pepper Pike Learning Center/ Orange Community Center
    • Day, Dates, Time: Wednesdays, Sept.13- Oct.18 3:45-4:45 PM
    • Grades: 1-4
  • Warrensville Heights YMCA
    • Day, Dates, Time: Thursdays, Sept.28- Nov. 2, 4-5 PM
    • Grades: 7-8
  • Chagrin Community Ed
    • Day, Dates, Time: Thursdays, Nov.9- Dec.14, 3:30-4:30 PM
    • Grades: 4-6
  • Reminderville RAC
    • Day, Dates, Time:
      • Session 1: Wednesdays, Nov.8- Dec.13, 4:30-5:30 PM
      • Session 2: Wednesdays, Nov.8- Dec.13, 6:00- 7:00 PM
    • Grades:
      • Session 1: 1-4
      • Session 2: 5-6

**All sign-ups are done through the locations listed. Prices may also vary per location. 

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